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Human beings are complex and challenging to understand. Many of the people expect their loved ones to be a mind-reader. But most aren’t.
Because of this, more than 90% of people suffer from emotional pain from concepts like mind reading by loved ones.
And this new career building culture has brought a new system of hiding problems and major steps from your own people to destroy your emotional and mental health.
"The culture will try to sell you the idea that if your loved ones really love you, they will know exactly what you want and give it to you."
The problem is that people are unaware of the critical issues and problems their loved one’s face. They can't understand them fully without communication. How can they expect them to understand themselves?
What to do?
Beat the ideology with some crucial initiatives. Here is how to do it:
1. Forgive Your People
Your someone special including your parents, partner, kids, or even closest friends are going to let you down several times because they are humans, and you’ll do the same.
As long as these mistakes or wrongdoings don’t affect your relationship in major way, it’s important to forgive them quickly and often.
Annoyance and resentment are the most destructive emotions to hold within a union. They can fester quickly if we don’t learn to let go of smaller grievances and understand that they’re human.
Keeping all your emotions and thoughts to yourself is not a good habit, until and unless you are a secret agent working for the security of your nation.
So share them often with your loved ones, in your secret diary or notepad, to keep your head free from them.
Also, thinking that your loved ones don’t have any problems in their life is another big mistake. Encourage them to share their pain and save them from shutting you or other loved ones completely.
Let your people know about the details of your inner struggles and ask them theirs. Don’t leave them alone with this pain.
Sense of Protection and Love
Your loved one or family are not mind readers. So, you must share about your needs as well. Talk to them respectfully, and try to be clear as much as you can with kindness.
After sharing them clearly, you can expect that your needs will be fulfilled because now your loved ones know what you need, and they can put effort into fulfilling them, as far as they are realistic.
But you need to ask for them.
4. Check-In
It is so much easier to live in your own little bubble and thoughts.
Checking in on your loved ones is important to know what’s actually going on in their lives and minds. Even if they are introverted or love enjoying solitude, it doesn’t hurt to check in and dig a little deeper for their betterment.
Everybody wants healthy relationships, and maintaining the balance with understanding is how to get there. This Newsletter showed you some crucial things people don’t even consider.
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Monika