I Felt irritated, abandoned and left out!
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I Felt irritated, abandoned and left out!
I was left behind in 2004
I did 1st class Twice—1st time in Hindi. Then switched to an English medium school to try not to feel left behind & left out. My principal told my father that I am a slow learner. And I did my 1st class again.
I was a slow learner!
I got wings in 2008
I can't forget when I was standing in 1 of the biggest Auditorium in Chandigarh, all because of the Painting creation. I feel proud of my artistic & creative mind.
It gives me wings to fly!
I got mentally tougher & competitively stronger. And to my surprise, I compete with boys until the 11th standard.
I am skipping the journey of some significant changes, which need more description. Where I was feeling left out, & left behind. Let's keep it for another day.
Now, Let's understand with the example of Instagram
I felt left out, left behind & Irritated like hell.
I have formed genuine connections, friendships, and bonds with many book lovers. I have observed many of them reach a great height in terms of followers and Passive Income.
I was happy for them and genuinely used to care. But day after day, I started feeling ignored and ghosted, & I sensed the change in their behavior towards me. I have consistently faced it on Insta.
In Short:
Some used to give me time, but not more than 1 minute & 1 sentence reply.
Some prefer to leave my messages on seen & ghost me.
Some have not yet opened my messages, which I sent several months ago.
Some approached me only when they needed me, & used to read my messages after 1-2 months.
Some who are now at great heights have told me we'll do a collab next month, but I have never heard from them.
Sometimes, I have reflected upon whether I'm worthy enough to waste my precious time on these people.
I was ok if we were just strangers. Still, I am not blaming them. Their life might also be dancing like mine. But I used to feel guilty for so many things.
One day I felt ashamed of myself for wasting enough time on them and for the attachment. And I realized what matters. Finally, I decided to focus on my dreams and on things that do not depend more on the Algorithm of social media.
I decided to work on all these things:
I did enough research on why I'm facing this all & the solutions
Created a vision board
Set 2 wonderful reminders
Started working on my consistent habit
Learned detachment
Started working on my physical health and started Intermittent Fasting
Started taking more action for my dreams
Then,
I started my newsletter.
Launched 2 Info products based on the research I was doing.
2nd Info Product hit the best-selling list.
The list is long. And many more surprises are on the way!
I feel grateful that I was left out!
I am simply proud of myself.
I have learned to work on myself.
I have learned to be more practical.
I learned to connect with people without any attachment.
I keep expectations where I should keep them.
I learned to build my dreams in silence.
And yet, I'm trying to build in Public.
The biggest thing I realized is
Stop being more positive when my gut feelings say something is wrong, and stop trying to feel more negative when I am feeling low. Along with it, I accepted the harsh truth that we can't make progress daily.
One day we will be luckiest. Another day we are not.
One day we are feeling high, and another day we are not.
Life is a journey of ups & downs, which can never be smooth.
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