And then my luck started supporting me & it disappeared every 2nd day! This topic arises when someone requests me to answer on Quora! So don't skip!
I Felt irritated, abandoned and left out!
I was left behind in 2004
I did 1st class Twice—1st time in Hindi. Then switched to an English medium school to try not to feel left behind & left out. My principal told my father that I am a slow learner. And I did my 1st class again.
I was a slow learner!
I got wings in 2008
I can't forget when I was standing in 1 of the biggest Auditorium in Chandigarh, all because of the Painting creation. I feel proud of my artistic & creative mind.
It gives me wings to fly!
I got mentally tougher & competitively stronger. And to my surprise, I compete with boys until the 11th standard.
I am skipping the journey of some significant changes, which need more description. Where I was feeling left out, & left behind. Let's keep it for another day.
Now, Let's understand with the example of Instagram
I felt left out, left behind & Irritated like hell.
I have formed genuine connections, friendships, and bonds with many book lovers. I have observed many of them reach a great height in terms of followers and Passive Income.
I was happy for them and genuinely used to care. But day after day, I started feeling ignored and ghosted, & I sensed the change in their behavior towards me. I have consistently faced it on Insta.
In Short:
- Some used to give me time, but not more than 1 minute & 1 sentence reply.
- Some prefer to leave my messages on seen & ghost me.
- Some have not yet opened my messages, which I sent several months ago.
- Some approached me only when they needed me, & used to read my messages after 1-2 months.
- Some who are now at great heights have told me we'll do a collab next month, but I have never heard from them.
- Sometimes, I have reflected upon whether I'm worthy enough to waste my precious time on these people.
I was ok if we were just strangers. Still, I am not blaming them. Their life might also be dancing like mine. But I used to feel guilty for so many things.
One day I felt ashamed of myself for wasting enough time on them and for the attachment. And I realized what matters. Finally, I decided to focus on my dreams and on things that do not depend more on the Algorithm of social media.
I decided to work on all these things:
- I did enough research on why I'm facing this all & the solutions
- Created a vision board
- Set 2 wonderful reminders
- Started working on my consistent habit
- Learned detachment
- Started working on my physical health and started Intermittent Fasting
- Started taking more action for my dreams
Then,
- I started my newsletter.
- Launched 2 Info products based on the research I was doing.
- 2nd Info Product hit the best-selling list.
The list is long. And many more surprises are on the way!
I feel grateful that I was left out!
- I am simply proud of myself.
- I have learned to work on myself.
- I have learned to be more practical.
- I learned to connect with people without any attachment.
- I keep expectations where I should keep them.
- I learned to build my dreams in silence.
- And yet, I'm trying to build in Public.
The biggest thing I realized is
Stop being more positive when my gut feelings say something is wrong, and stop trying to feel more negative when I am feeling low. Along with it, I accepted the harsh truth that we can't make progress daily.
- One day we will be luckiest. Another day we are not.
- One day we are feeling high, and another day we are not.
- Life is a journey of ups & downs, which can never be smooth.
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